"Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life."
― Akshay Dubey
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Here With Love is a safe, anonymous website designed to provide immediate support for individuals facing sexual assault, domestic violence, or suicidal thoughts. Simply input your specific situation, and Here With Love offers personalized resources, including crisis hotlines, therapy options, and emergency services, tailored to your needs. Whether you're seeking urgent help or ongoing support, Here With Love provides a compassionate, private space to connect with the resources that can help you heal and take the next step toward safety and well-being.
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WHAT TO REMEMBER
Research consistently shows that asking someone directly about suicide does not plant the idea. In fact, it often brings relief. If you are worried, ask clearly and without softening: "Are you thinking about ending your life?" or "Is someone hurting you?" Direct questions give the person permission to be honest and show that you are taking them seriously.
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention highlights that one of the deepest pains in a suicidal crisis is feeling profoundly alone. Loneliness and isolation intensify suicidal thoughts, while connection is one of the most powerful protective forces against them. When you ask directly and stay present with the answer, you are doing more than gathering information: you are breaking through that isolation. You are telling the person, clearly, that you see them and are not looking away. That act of genuine presence can begin to reduce the aloneness that makes crisis feel unsurvivable.
Source: National Institute of Mental Health, 5 Action Steps for Helping Someone in Emotional Pain · nimh.nih.gov | American Foundation for Suicide Prevention · afsp.org
When someone discloses sexual violence, abuse, or suicidal thoughts, say clearly and without hesitation: "I believe you. I'm glad you told me." RAINN specifically cautions against responses that cast doubt. Questions like "Are you sure?" or "What were you wearing?" are retraumatizing, even when well-intentioned. The National DV Hotline echoes this: survivors are the experts on their own lives, and being believed, perhaps for the first time, can begin to undo years of harm.
Source: RAINN, Help a Loved One · rainn.org | National Domestic Violence Hotline, How to Help a Friend or Family Member · thehotline.org
NIMH identifies reducing access to lethal means (firearms, medications, and other dangerous items) as one of the most effective ways to protect someone in a suicidal crisis. Working with the person, and where appropriate their family, to temporarily secure or remove these items from the home saves lives. For survivors of violence, keeping safe may look different: helping them identify a trusted person to call, a code word, a bag ready to go, or a plan for where to go if they need to leave quickly.
Source: National Institute of Mental Health, 5 Action Steps for Helping Someone in Emotional Pain · nimh.nih.gov | American Foundation for Suicide Prevention · afsp.org
The National DV Hotline specifically cautions well-meaning supporters against trying to "rescue" or control the situation. Abuse is fundamentally about power and control. Being told what to do, even by a caring friend, can feel familiar and retraumatizing. Their guidance is to offer options, not directives. Trust that the person knows their own situation in ways you cannot fully see. If they return to the relationship, do not withdraw. Your steady, unconditional presence, without ultimatums, may ultimately be what helps them leave when it is safe to do so.
Source: National Domestic Violence Hotline, How to Help a Friend or Family Member · thehotline.org
NIMH recommends actively helping your loved one connect to professional support: not just mentioning a hotline, but sitting with them while they make the call, looking up resources together, or accompanying them to an appointment. Equally important is what comes after. Research shows that following up after a crisis conversation, even a simple text a few days later saying "I've been thinking about you," significantly reduces isolation and signals that your care is not conditional on a single hard moment.
Source: National Institute of Mental Health, 5 Action Steps for Helping Someone in Emotional Pain · nimh.nih.gov
AFSP is clear: supporting someone through a mental health crisis or trauma takes a real toll, and secondary traumatic stress is a recognized experience among caregivers and loved ones. You deserve support too. Seek it from a therapist, a trusted friend, or a support group, particularly one for people who love someone in crisis. Remember that you are not responsible for saving anyone. Your role is to show up with love, presence, and connection. That is enough. That is profound.
Source: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, After a Suicide Attempt: A Guide for Friends and Family · afsp.org
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People have connected with RAINN's support programs since 1994. Reaching out is a sign of courage, and you are joining a community of people who took that step.
RAINN · rainn.org
800+ People
Contact RAINN every single day and are connected with a trained, confidential support person. Whenever you are ready, someone is there to listen.
RAINN · rainn.org
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Reporting is just one of many options, and there is no pressure or timeline. What matters most is finding the support that feels right for you, at your own pace.
Sexual assault can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, or background. It is important to remember that it is never your fault, no matter the circumstances. Survivors are never to blame for the actions of the perpetrator. No one has the right to take control of your body or make you feel unsafe, and sexual assault is an act of violence and power, not a result of your actions or choices.
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Whatever you're feeling, there is support for you here.
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You are not a burden. Your pain is real, and you deserve support. Reaching out is one of the bravest things you can do.
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People have reached out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline since 1996. You are not the first person to take this step, and you will not face what comes next alone.
National Domestic Violence Hotline · thehotline.org
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Trained advocates are available every hour of every day by phone, text, and online chat, at no cost. There is no wrong time to reach out.
National Domestic Violence Hotline · thehotline.org
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Specialized, affirming support exists for LGBTQ+ survivors, immigrants, people with children, and people in every kind of relationship. Whatever your situation, there is someone who understands it.
National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP) · avp.org/ncavp
Domestic violence refers to a pattern of abusive behaviors used by one person in an intimate relationship to gain or maintain power and control over the other person. It can encompass physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse. You deserve safety, and help is available.
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About Us.
Here With Love is a free, confidential, and anonymous resource built for anyone navigating one of life's hardest moments. Whether you are facing sexual assault, domestic violence, or suicidal thoughts, or supporting someone who is, this space was created with one purpose: to make sure no one has to face it alone.
We believe that the first step toward healing should feel safe. Here With Love does not collect personal information, does not require you to create an account, and does not store any of your responses.
This site is not a substitute for emergency services. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 911.
BROAD RESOURCES
CRISIS & MENTAL HEALTH
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call or Text 988 · Available 24/7
ANY CRISIS: TEXT SUPPORT
Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741 · Free & Confidential 24/7
SEXUAL ASSAULT
RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) · rainn.org
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233 · Text START to 88788
LGBTQ+ SUPPORT
The Trevor Project
1-866-488-7386 · thetrevorproject.org
EMERGENCY
Emergency Services
Call 911 · For immediate danger only
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HOW TO BROWSE PRIVATELY
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